The sports news of today is buzzing with the piece on Shaquille O’Neill joining the Cleveland basketball team. He will team up with LeBron James. The usual question is being asked, i.e. will two superstars make Cleveland unstoppable, or will there will a new set of problems besetting the team.
The idea that superstars make a team unstoppable, is not necessarily correct. If it were, the NY Yankees would win each year. Their team is laden with “big names”. But sports involves intangibles, personality battles, managing concerns, etc.
In life too, there is no such thing as a marital superstar-pairing. Good people marry and divorce. This is not to blame anybody; this is a fact of life. Marriages do not last forever, as people are not infallible. When divorce beckons, put away the temptation to hire the “gunslinger” who will get you revenge. If you married with respect and dignity, choose to divorce the same way. There are no guarantes in sports or in real life. Bad things happen. Do what you can to ensure your marriage ends on a note of civility rather than one of combatativeness. Mediation works. You will not be disappointed with its results.
Tags: Divorce mediation, Mediation, LeBron James, Shaq, Shaquille O'Neill
